We were moving from Richmond, VA to Raleigh, NC – and we were going to need somewhere new to live at.
Amanda and I had taken a number of trips to Raleigh in the Spring of 2011 to figure out where we were going to live at. We were moving there because I would soon begin my Ph.D. work at Southeastern Seminary.
We took so many tours of so many places that you would find it very difficult to keep track of them all, but in the end, Amanda and I just couldn’t seem to come to an agreement on where we wanted to end up.
We looked at renting, but I did NOT want to pay $800 to $1,000 a month in rent. “Babe! That’s a house payment,” I declared. So I decided I wanted to buy – rather than waste that much in rent with nothing to show for it.
Amanda and I had decided we would buy a home instead – so we started looking at townhomes in a fantastic community built by Centex. It was called “Highland Creek.”
We saw the community and were immediately sold, but we had different ideas on what kind of house we would buy.
I fell in love with a property called “The Pinehurst.”
This property was $1,100 a month so it was still about what we were going to pay in rent around here.
Amanda thought it was too much though. So she kept pressing practicality. She thought we should get “The Merritt.”
This smaller property was $900 a month . Although it was smaller – it definitely had a lot of perks.
So for months Amanda and I debate back and forth about what townhome we would get: The larger Pinehurst or the more practical Merritt. Yes. It sounds like an episode of House Hunters.
“Ben! Why do you think we should get ‘The Pinehurst.,’ when it’s $300 more for a smaller master closet and a smaller master bedroom?” She made this case often.
“Amanda! Are you serious? There is far more space for us to have a family in ‘The Pinehurst.’ Don’t you want our kids to have space to play in our house at all?” My case often appealed to her maternal aspirations – which we both presume is still a few years out.
We even drug our parents down there to get their opinions. Then we drug our best friends down there to get their’s, as well.
We toured the townhomes at least 15 different times.
So what did we decide?
After months of arguing back and forth over the pros and cons of these properties, Amanda and I get to Raleigh and are told that we do not have a sufficient credit history to buy ANY PROPERTY IN RALEIGH.
We end up renting – which is exactly what I said I would not do.
Sometimes the dream of what we think we deserve is so grand that we refuse to accept what we are actually able to attain. Amanda and I expected that we would both have great jobs and the credibility to afford and purchase a home very easily. Boy, were we ever wrong. I went weeks before I found any kind of job – and with all the fees we would have been hit with, we would have been in bankruptcy as fast as we signed our names on the line.
Don’t ever dream yourself into failure, friends. It’s rather easy to do it – when you dream too big too fast.
This is the 4th dumbest argument we ever had – because we wasted hours and hours and hours of our lives, our families lives, and our friends lives trying to decide. We argued over this for months, and – in the end – neither one of us had our way.
But in the future – I will be telling you all why it was all God’s plan for us to not buy at Centex, because something much greater is being offered to us. That’s another blog for another day.
But for now – that’s the 4th dumbest argument we have ever had. And they only get dumber from here.
NOTE: ALL PHOTOS ARE PROPERTY OF CENTEX. YOU CAN VISIT THEM HERE: WWW.CENTEX.COM